Nettie Floyd

This is who I am in the world:

I am Love. I am compassion. I am kind, my biggest strength. I am sincere. I am a deep feeler. My motto is “Love is the magic in life.” I am a highly intuitive Trauma Healer. I am a Heart and Soul Reader, I connect into what your Heart and Soul most wants you to know in this moment. I am an Energetic distance Healer, I connect into your energy and clear it, replacing what is cleared with unconditional love, which leaves you feeling lighter and at peace. I am an artist, I create Unique Healing Crystal Art Pieces and Jewellery specifically for whatever needs to be healed for its owner. I am an energy clearer and do crystal gridding for homes, land, animals and businesses. I am a teacher. I am a Mentor. I am a pattern changer. I facilitate women’s Circles and workshops. In these last 10 years, I do my very best to always come from love, integrity, kindness and grace. I am a student of life who will continue learning all the days of my life.

I am a Mother, still my favourite thing to be. I am a Friend. I am a Soul Sister. I am me x

My choice to tell my story from a place of love and grace,is to help free women from the outdated belief we are taught ‘What happens behind closed doors, stays behind closed doors” Lets break those doors wide open so we can be free of the shame and guilt that was never ours to carry. This includes your voice being suppressed and love being conditioned. This helps to heal past, present and future generations.

Like many women that are drawn to me, I grew up in extreme dysfunction and all types of abuse that continued off and on into my 30’s. In the absence of nurturing, unconditional love and support, I had a core belief system that told me ‘I was nothing, deserved nothing and I was unlovable’. I was sensitive and shy and was programmed to believe I deserved to be abused. I felt defective, abandoned, unsafe and unworthy of love and extremely insecure. I didn’t fit in and I didn’t belong anywhere. I made myself invisible to survive this thing called life. All the while I was so desperate to be loved. So desperate for love that I allowed abuse and settled for scraps of conditioned love in my adult life. Always ignoring the constant red flag of words and actions not matching that always led to a cycle of Inaction causing reaction. My Insecurities were extreme, I didn’t know who I was. In my 40’s I found my voice. The cycle of Inaction would eventually lead to me reacting when the words, broken promises of others didn’t match. I knew I needed a new way. It was great to find my voice but being aggressive wasn’t the way forward.

I remember watching and listening to older female family members when I was around 13. They were bitter, judgemental, harsh and so cruel with their words. That was my 1st experience of being grateful that ‘I didn’t fit in’. I made a promise to myself that day that I would do life differently. I starting breaking family patterns without realising that I was. I wanted to be better not bitter.

The 1st time I left home I was 15. I worked full-time and lived in a boarding house. In my 1st fulltime job I was fortunate enough to work for a family that were the opposite of what I had known. I finally found a healthy male role model who is still part of my life today. I have been married twice and have no regrets as that is how I became a Mother. I remember the feelings of unconditional love I felt when I held my 1st and 2nd child in my arms. At last I knew what unconditional love was. I have spent more time alone than I have with a partner. Many years as a single Mum. My children have been the Sunshine in my life.

I have known Deep Depression, Extreme Anxiety, PTSD and Chronic sleep issues.

I had a nervous breakdown in my 30’s which was my biggest breakthrough. I left my marriage and family with a desire to find and show my children a different version of normal. I still loved my family but I didn’t like their choices and chose not to be in their lives, in choosing a new way for my children it eventually lead to choosing a new way for me.

My biggest grief in life was when I wrongly lost custody of my 8 year old son, he is now an adult and is through the trauma of being taken away from his mother, thankfully our bond was never broken no matter how hard others tried. It was hard to stay in the world. Mum was where I excelled and the absolute sunshine in my life. Then some years later my eldest son choosing not to be in my life as an adult, took a while for me to get the message that he really didn’t want me in his life. My eldest son didn’t get the opportunity to be parented by me without me clearing my own trauma. What he did get was unconditional love and boundaries, the beginning of breaking my own experience from childhood. Both situations are the deepest heartache I have known.

This too is an area I would like to crack the doors of shame and guilt wide open. I wish to create support group work for women. Adult children choosing not be in parent’s life is sadly too common now. All abuse from my past became insignificant as my favourite thing to be, Mum felt taken away. Im finding more and more women drawn to me whose adult children choose not to be in their lives. Many who have raised their children as a sole-parent. Often the common threads of healing needed for women in this situation is forgiveness of self for doing too much for our children, overcompensating, guilt and shame for not being a perfect Mother. Accepting our adult children’s choice. I came to the realisation 15 years ago where I had gone wrong in my parenting was not making myself as important as my children. I see that in the women drawn to me.

I spent much of my life not wanting to be here, now I’m glad I am. Life’s trauma has become my work. I am better not bitter. I have found myself.

Never a truer saying for me than ‘Friends are the family we choose’ All of whom I am so grateful for.

I have always believed everything happens for a reason. At this end of my life all I have been through has now become my work and now helps support women to heal and grow from a place of love, grace, integrity and safety.

I believe Fear is the Opposite of Love. If you have only known Fear, How can you recognise Love?

If you have only known conditioned Love, abuse and trauma the cycles and patterns need to be broken and what is needed is to learn a new way. That New way begins with learning the tools to love you. Support is essential during healing your past. Being seen, heard, validated and honoured whilst held in a space of love that is free of judgement speeds the process for healing and freedom from the past. Regardless of if the trauma and core beliefs you have, were put upon you by other’s intentional or not, healing must occur for life to change.

This is the story that I would like written for women:

It is my heart’s desire to support and help more women through my work: To be truly seen, heard, believed, validated and honoured for being them. To become free to speak their emotions without fear of judgement. To become comfortable in their own skin. To break old outdated patterns and teach them a whole New way of being. To teach them tools so they can have: Freedom from trauma and abuse. Freedom from their past. To become the love they need and desire. To make choices from a place of love and empowerment rather than a place of fear or desperation. To forgive themselves of past actions, behaviours and choices. To teach them how to connect to themselves and teach them the tools to treat themselves with Love, Grace and Integrity ALWAYS. To create a new healthy version of normal for themselves. To help them understand the only person responsible for their happiness is them and show them how this is possible. To help them to change their false core beliefs often put upon them by others and life’s experiences.

To connect women together through using group work in a safe, supported, confidential space to further enhance their growth and healing. A safe place to be seen, heard, believed, validated and honoured by more than one person. A safe place of community and support.

To be a support as the women drawn to me as they expand into a whole new version of themselves using the many healing modalities and tools I have learnt on my own healing journey. To have the privilege of watching them grow, heal and trust in Life and Love like never before.

To see women heal and truly live and know they are worthy of love, joy and happiness.

When we change how we treat ourselves our whole world changes for the better and life can begin anew. It would be my honour to show you the way.

This is the story I next would like written for myself:

For my upcoming Online Digital Business to launch and help thousands of women of all ages from all over the world.

To travel doing Workshops and Motivational Talk Therapy into community which can lead to connecting other women together at a heart and soul level from the same community for ongoing support.

I want to create overflowing financial abundance for myself and to create a Foundation for Financial Support for other women that need a hand in times of financial difficulty.

To become bold and allow in life more than ever before. To learn to Latin dance.

To Travel the world.

To be spontaneous and open to more adventures.

Always from Love Nettie x